Henry Cloud Quotes
Top 100 wise famous quotes and sayings by Henry Cloud
Henry Cloud Famous Quotes & Sayings
Discover top inspirational quotes from Henry Cloud on Wise Famous Quotes.
Unsafe people will never identify with others as fellow sinners and strugglers, because they see themselves as somehow above all of that.
The natural response to evaluation is to feel judged. We have to mature to a place where we respond to it with gratitude, and love feedback.
If you protect your children from the pain of irresponsibility, you set them up for many struggles in adulthood.
People who always want to be happy and pursue it above all else are some of the most miserable people in the world.
The amount of truth a relationship can handle is proportional to the amount of perceived love that's present.
Other Christians may try to tell you what your values should be, but they are not perfect. You must take responsibility for your own choices.
Frustration is a key ingredient to growth. The child who is never frustrated never develops frustration tolerance.
finding the other person's heart is more important than getting that person to see that you are right.
Good pain is pain in the service of a purpose. Bad pain is pain endured because we are resisting a needed growth step.
When two people are free to disagree, they are free to love. When they are not free, they live in fear, and love dies.
Whatever's happening today, remember it is only ONE SCENE in a long movie. Don't treat it like it's the whole story. Keep writing the story.
The problem with this approach is that it makes an idol out of the will, something God never intended. Just
Hidden sins and problems are destructive to us, and if we long to grow, we would want them exposed and healed.
Things can hurt and not harm us. In fact they can even be good for us. And things that feel good can be very harmful to us.
Our ability to give and respond to love is our greatest gift. The heart that God has fashioned in his image is the center of our being.
Each one should test his own actions. Then he can take pride in himself, without comparing himself to somebody else.
Dating is about finding out who you are and who others are. If you show up in a masquerade outfit, neither is going to happen.
A person who hasn't grieved a significant loss has unfinished business inside and can cause others great grief as a result.
As a psychologist, I can tell you that there are people who look very good in a group, but they're very different in a one-on-one situation.
A good test of a relationship is how a person responds to the word 'no.' Love respects 'no,' control does not.
Boundaries are basically about providing structure, and structure is essential in building anything that thrives.
The most important tool ultimately is the person and his or her makeup, and yet it seems to get the least amount of attention and work.
To be in touch with God's truth is to be in touch with reality, and to live in accord with that reality makes for a better life (Ps. 119:2, 45).
The greatest people are the ones who have not sought greatness, but served greatly the causes, values, and missions that were much bigger than them.
The mature person meets the demands of life, while the immature person demands that life meet her demands.
You cannot fix people who will not take feedback, because from their perspective, they do not have a problem.
The sad thing is that many of us come to Christ because we are sinners, and then spend the rest of our lives trying to pretend that we are not!
You have to be able to face losing some things you might want in order to be free to do the right thing.
Part of executive functions is the ability to look to a goal deadline and assess where an organization is in meeting it.
There is a difference between solitude and isolation. One is connected and one isn't. Solitude replenishes, isolation diminishes.
To be truly biblical, as well as truly effective, the growth process must include the Body of Christ.
Faith goes beyond reason. It goes beyond what you can see. But it is as real as anything you can touch or feel.
Instead of doing what many compliant people do when they wake up and find themselves lost, she didn't leave the relationship to find herself.
Since the Fall, our instincts have been to withdraw from relationship when we're in trouble, when we most need other people. (Remember
getting better is not about just 'willing' better performance. It's about becoming someone who performs better, and performs differently.
Paul says, if we choose to live by the Spirit, we will live; if we choose to follow our sinful nature, we will die (Rom. 8:13).
Couples often live out years of falsehood trying to protect and save a relationship, all the while destroying any chance of real relationship.
You will be amazed how much can change in your life when you finally begin to let go of what you can never have. All
When you cease to blame your spous eand own the problem as yours, you are then empowered to make changes to solve your problem.
Encourage your child to think for himself, disagree, and talk about his feelings while accepting your authority.
People who forgive can - and should - also be people who confront. What is not confessed can't be forgiven.
Dating should be a part of your life, not your life a part of dating. There is more to life than finding a date.
Just as we leave the effects of our work behind in results, we leave the effects of our interactions with people in their hearts, minds, and souls.
When one person is in control of another, love cannot grow deeply and fully, as there is no freedom.
Leave your pride, ego, and narcissism somewhere else. Reactions from those parts of you will reinforce your children's most primitive fears.
We need rest not just so we feel better. We need rest for actual creation of what we're going to need the next day.
These actions can lead to the martyr syndrome, in which people sacrifice their own desires to arouse feelings of pity or guilt in others.
The extent to which two people in a relationship can bring up and resolve issues is a critical marker of the soundness of a relationship.
God's plan for us is to be loved enough by him and others, to not feel isolated - even when we're alone.2